Every month, i connect with my readers through the Monthly Love Letter. This is where I share personal stories, links I love, words of motivation and a bit of my creative process. The Monthly Letters are where we hang out together to share a bit more, get a little more personal, and share my secrets.
Have you said 'no' to anything yet?
I know, I know...saying 'no' is difficult! Missed opportunities. Missed chances. Disappointed friends or family. That brings some mighty strong FOMO. That's the Fear of Missing Out, by the way. But saying no is important.
But how do you you choose? You choose by deciding what's most important to you. You say 'yes' to all the things that support your goals and 'no' to the things that don't. What's important to me is kindness, love, happiness and curiosity.
People who aren't nice . This is simple. If you aren't kind to me, then I don't really need you in my life. My mom raised me to be polite, so I can exchange pleasantries, friendly small and even socialize in groups. But no, if you insult me, make snide comments behind my back or constantly blow me off for 'better' plans, then...no. I'm not hanging out with you.
Work that doesn't line up with who I am or where I want to be. We live in an age of 'should'. You should be on Twitter/Snapchat/Periscope. You should sell this, you should make 100K a month,. You should do it like her. Or act like him. I send a heart full of love to everyone trying to figure out how to marry creativity and enterprise. I respect the hustle, and I respect the player. Truly, I do. But I'm learning to turn down opportunities that feel like an obligation. Or not tied to my specialty or my particular set of skills (said in a Liam Neeson in Taken tone). For whatever reason, sometimes a project doesn't fit, and I'm learning how to say 'no' to those.
Traveling. I love to explore new places...to go someplace I've never been before, and let new experiences shape me. So I will take as many travel opportunities as I can.
Getting out of my head (and this chair). I spend a good chunk of my day sitting in a chair, either hunched over pieces of paper or squinting at a computer screen. While I love what I do, I'm going to sit a little less. I'll spend more time saying 'yes' to afternoon walks, evening yoga, and just stepping outside to feel the sun on my face.
Something so awesome, it scares me. I like to keep my options open. Sometimes that means saying 'yes' to bigger projects, in front of larger audiences. I'll explore the big stuff which will ultimately enrich me.
What are you saying 'yes' and 'no' to?